Thomas Stelling

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Thomas Stelling

Born in 1967 in the North of Germany with a long lineage of ancestors from that region.
Having a working class background I have been interested already in social from early on. But neither studying social sciences, history, international relations or the activism of non-governmental organizations nurtured my longing - only NVC eventually did.

2004 I encountered Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and met Marshall Rosenberg in Switzerland. Since then, I learned especially from Beate Ronnefeldt, Markus Sikor, Kelly Bryson, Monika Flörchinger, Laurence Reichler, and many others.

Since 2009 I run year-long NVC programs around Lake Constance. I love supporting people for some years in their personal (and sometimes also professional) development, offering also “Facilitation & Training”, “Empathic Coaching,” “NVC Mediation,” and “NVC Leadership.” Apart from trainings, I facilitate, I coach and mediate — and support social organizations in team development or organizational development.

I have been trained in NARM (Therapy of Developmental Trauma) a couple of years with Laurence Heller and have studied with Thomas Hübl (Transparent Communication & Integration of Collective Trauma) since 2008 (TWT1, Pocket Project, CTFT). 2025 I became a ‘Lead Facilitator of Collective Trauma Integration Processes’.

I have the last years done research and lecturing on the “Roots of NVC” (“Wurzeln der Gewaltfreie Kommunikation” in German). I continually publish the lectures as podcast and plan to write a book about it in 2026. By the way, these are the one‘s I looked at (with year of birth):

  • 1869 Mahatma Gandhi
  • 1878 Martin Buber
  • 1900 Erich Fromm
  • 1902 Carl Rogers
  • 1905 Viktor Frankl
  • 1905 Dag Hammarskjöld
  • 1906 Hannah Arendt
  • 1908 Abraham Maslow
  • 1921 Paulo Freire
  • 1928 Gene Sharp
  • 1929 Martin Luther King Jr.
  • 1931 Riane Eisler
  • 1932 Manfred Max-Neef
  • 1933 Stanley Milgram
  • ———–1934 Marshall B. Rosenberg (as reference)
  • 1935 Walter Wink
  • 1957 Alfie Kohn