Nonviolent Communication

Changing how you communicate means changing habits, developing new skills, strengthening existing skills, and finding new ways to understand your thoughts and actions, and those of the other people in your life. As you gain greater proficiency and mastery you find that situations that used to trouble you greatly now seem surprisingly easy to navigate, and situations you would previously have avoided completely now fall within your capacity to handle. The Communication Dojo provides an excellent environment to bring about this change with a combination of:

  • Study

  • Practice

  • Community

  • Your commitment to a more joyful life ​ We don’t just want you to understand the skills, we want you to be able to access them when you most need them… Whether you’re already a student of Nonviolent Communication or not, we all know that in moments of anger, upset, sadness, fear or frustration there’s a much increased chance of us falling back on what Marshall Rosenberg called “Jackal” communication - the kind of communication that leads to disconnection and conflict - communication that takes your time and energy but does not give much in return. ​ Your body probably tries to give you instant feedback when this happens - even before you get to the bigger signals like hot face, tight stomach, tensed muscles, increasing loudness of speech. The momentum of defense and counter-attack, shut down or flee, can easily take over - but what if you get more quickly tuned in to the signals your body is giving. What if you start listening more to what your body is saying, and including your body, its signals and its movement in a kinesthetic approach to Nonviolent Communication? ​ You’ll discover how play, movement and bodily gestures can all accelerate the sense of “getting NVC in your bones.” Our aim is that you’ll develop greater bodily awareness, and respond more quickly to steer yourself in the direction of connected communication any time you start to veer in a less useful direction. ​ As soon as you concern yourself with the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you.— Morihei Ueshiba, Founder of Aikido Some features of the Communication Dojo practice environment: ​